Reading Greybeard’s post, “The Purple One”, struck a nerve.
My youngest son, a 1/ 4th ID Medic, died, age 41, in 2019
from the long term effects of his service injuries. He was medically discharged
with an 80% disability that was upgraded to 100% retroactive. He never received
a Purple Heart.
The header picture is a vehicle he was driving that hit a
Soviet era mine. Guess the scrapes and bruises didn’t count.
He made dozens of trips out of the compound with the
Infantry. Once the vehicle he was in was hit and set on fire. The hatch was
jammed. He, and the others, barely escaped. Guess his burns were too minor to
count.
Once he was blown backwards into his hut by a rocket
exploding outside.
Even though he treated wounded soldiers while taking
incoming fire, he was never awarded a Combat Medic Badge.
Why? His unit leadership didn’t put him in for them.
Why didn’t they? My theory is this. My son, a handsome man
(took after his mother, not me) was a moral married man. He had no interest in
cheating on his wife. The senior leadership of his unit was female. He told me
that his 1st Sgt once propositioned him.
I think he was very good at his job. His “brick” showed
several Army Commendation Medals and Army Achievement awards. One commendation
was from a Special Forces detachment he was with for a month. A plumber before
entering the service, he built a small facility where wounded people could be
washed from scrounged materials.
He was recommended two times for promotion to Sergeant while
in Afghanistan but never promoted. This I learned from his closest friend at my
son’s funeral. His friend also confirmed there was a lot of sexual conduct
going on in their unit. This was seconded by another Medic at his funeral.
His proudest token was a Challenge Coin given to him by the
then SgtMaj of the Army.
He did take delight in pointing out he had Good Conduct Medals,
an award I never earned.
Despite all this, he loved the Army and wanted to stay in.
He was told he had to attend NCO Academy to be promoted, but couldn’t attend
because of the support boot he wore on his left leg. His response, “Fuck you, I
did two tours in Afghanistan wearing this boot”, probably didn’t help his case.
In civilian life his firearms closet would probably equip an
infantry squad.
Back to the point. Many men and women deserved to be
recognized who weren’t because the ones in the rear with the gear didn’t get it
done. What they were good at was giving each other awards. I truly loath those
REMFs.
Now for some balance. Many served in administrative jobs and
did their best. Many had no choice; that is where the Army placed them. An
example; a cook who never left Fort Dix. Many went through hell because of
abusive, or incompetent, or both, superiors. Those who soldiered on and did
their duty will always have my respect.
The phrase, “All gave some, some gave all” isn’t a cliché to
me.





















