What follows
is my personal opinion. YMMV, and you need not even read it.
Getting
drunk, and stupid, seems to be taken as a birthright by some people. They
expect forgiveness, and tolerance, from those in their lives. They are
resentful when they don’t receive it. They are the most selfish of all people.
They suck all the joy of living out of the homes they inhabit.
I’ve no problem with the responsible consumption of alcohol. I drink alcohol nearly every day, a glass of wine at bedtime, which helps me fall asleep. On occasions, I will have a few drinks in a social setting. We are all free agents, and I don’t judge anyone who handles their consumption in a responsible manner.
Have I done
stupid things under the influence that has negatively affected my life? Yes,
and more times than I care to remember. Within my family, I’ve dealt with more
problems than anyone should be forced to deal with. I’ve watched the helpless
victims, children, suffer.
Some people
get it. A young friend watched his father destroy his family life and business.
He watched a brother go to prison. He saw himself going down the same path, and
his young bride walking out. Deeply religious, he has used the AA program, and
is well into his third year of sobriety. He has my total respect.
I spent
thirty years in, or around, the retail automotive business. Excluding LEOs,
I’ve dealt with more alcohol and drug abusers that most people. I learned to
never, ever, completely trust a drunk. The question isn’t if, the question is
when.
Coming back
to the “birthright” theme, I remember a long conversation with a veteran Corrections
Officer. He had worked in several of the prisons in the Colorado system. At
the time, the prison near Trinidad, CO, housed most of the inmates doing time for
alcohol related offenses (multiple DUI, vehicular homicide, etc.). He said they
were the worst class of prisoners to deal with. As I recalled, he said,
“A thief or a murderer knows he belongs in
prison. A damned drunk thinks he is being treated unfairly”.
He went on
to compare them to sexual predators, that they don’t change, and won’t be
“cured”. I think he may be exactly right.
I will
continue to, “Hate the sin, love the sinner”, but I will never, ever, accept
the behavior.
3 comments:
Well said. And agreed.
Don't remember much of my childhood because of a drunk. My sister remembers too much of our childhood. Buried him two years ago. Still feel the hollowness of of his love.
What was more important than his childern to him. Never forgave him. Should have, but it still hurts. And I'll be 65 this year.
You lived through it. If you didn't repeat it, give yourself praise. Some hurts never go away.
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