Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Misplaced Child


Wyatt Earp has a post up about losing his daughter in a crowd. Even after thirty some years, I can remember the feeling. Horrible!


My  oldest is autistic. His particular problem seems to be centered around his hearing. As a toddler, he fought against entering any kind of store. Once, at a Bon Marche store in Salt Lake City, he disappeared. About thirty minutes later, one of the sales ladies found him under a display module. This module had shelving underneath to hold additional stock, and he had slid open one of the doors to climb inside.


One day he grabbed a pair of my ear muff protectors and wanted to wear them. Rather than argue, his mother let him wear them. He happily went into all the stores. Seems the little guy could hear the florescent fixtures, and the sound bothered him. After a few years, he discarded ear muffs and had no problem with stores.

I suppose some parents would have been uncomfortable with the looks from other people. Give my ex credit; she, along with me, didn't give a rat's ass what anybody thought about how our children were perceived by others. We were the ones raising them.

8 comments:

  1. Good point, if it worked, it wasn't wrong, contrary to all those nattering nabobs...

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  2. Lyssa has Asperger's with sensory integration dysfunction.
    She has been wearing stereo headphones since she was about six. Some people think it's anti social, but it's a coping mechanism for her. She had a horrible time until she was able to express herself.

    Good for you and your ex... whatever works for the kid is best, usually. Easier for everyone.

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    1. Good for you and your husband for rasing her so she can function in society. Even more so keeping your marriage together.

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  3. I think the fact that we waited more than six years to have our first child and waited another six to have the second was a big factor in our stability. Also, we seem to have the same priorities when taking care of kids/family/money. Thank goodness.

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    1. All to the good, So many couples with special needs children divorce, including me. In our case, that probable would have happen in any case.

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